5 Reasons You Don't Enjoy Quiet Time

  • By ChosenByHim
  • 21 Apr, 2017

We have become so focused on how we think God wants us to spend time with him. We ignore the simple fact that God just wants you.

Quiet time is an extremely important time in a Christians daily life. Where we spend with the Lord in prayer, reading the word, worshipping and most importantly listening to what He says. There comes a time in your Christian walk when spending time with God, becomes a daily priority. You genuinely desire to be with the Lord but there's a problem- It's inconsistent, it doesn't feel good, it's boring, you don't know how, your mind wanders, the list goes on. You're not alone, this is something a lot of Christians struggle with and I know I've struggled (and still struggle) with some of these things.

 1. You have a checklist

I like to plan. I plan everything! I plan what time I'll read my Bible, what time I'll pray, what time I'll worship. I plan where I'll study, how many chapters.    Get the picture? Now there's nothing wrong with being organised. In fact, the Bible praises people that are diligent, committed and focused. [See Proverbs 22:29].  However, we have become so focused on how we think God wants us to spend time with him. We ignore the simple fact that God just wants you. That's it! He just wants you. He wants you to meet with Him, anytime, anywhere, any way you know how. He doesn't want us to become legalistic. I love this verse:

"Be still and know that I am God". Psalm 46:10

Just get into the presence of the Lord and let Him lead you. Know that He is God and know that He is able to give you inspiration as to watch to read, sing or write. His ways are not ours, Isaiah 55:8-9. He's not bound by our plans or schedules. He can move however He likes and it's up to us to breakaway from our rules and keep up. As a starting point, just set a time you'll meet with Lord daily and let Him do the rest.

 2.  You read your bible

A major part of our quiet time is the Word. However the key phrase in my statement was  read.  There comes a time where reading is not enough. We must study the word. Both reading and studying are good and important however, when you read your Bible, you usually read to refresh your memory, to find comfort, or as an effort to think on good things, as we are commanded in Philippians 4:8.  In contrast, during a Bible study, you may spend an hour on just a couple of verses. The goal during Bible study is to gain revelation and understanding not merely to refresh your memory.  When you study the word you allow the Holy Spirit to reveal the hidden mysteries of that verse, Psalm 119:18 You are able to apply it to your life and situation. You can then use that word to edify yourself and others.

                        The goal during Bible study is to gain revelation and understanding not merely to refresh your memory.  

3.  You do it alone

This isn't to say that anytime you want to want to have quiet time, get 8 of your closest friends together and study the word. Well that's not a bad idea but but by doing it alone, I mean, many of us begin our quiet time with the Lord without actually talking to Him. Before we start our quiet time , it's good practice to just say a few words of prayer and ask the Holy Spirit to guide you to where to study, help you understand what you read, Ephesians 1:17, to soften your heart to receive from Him and open your ears to hear from Him. Without the help of the Holy Spirit, no one can know God or spend quality time with him. Ask Him to teach you the word. Without inspiration from the Spirit, you can have the best study Bibles, devotionals or podcasts, but still not understand and apply the Word to your life.   Also ask Him for diligence and consistency and focus from a wandering mind.


                                           Many of us begin our  quiet time with the Lord without actually talking to Him.

4. You're making it boring

I'm currently in a very busy season of my life and it got to a point where I was so busy it nearly became detrimental to my walk with the Lord.  However, through God's grace, I was able to notice this and get creative. Very creative at times. Firstly, I got out of the mindset, that I needed to spend time with God at a certain place and a certain time. I used to think if I didn't abide to my rules, my quiet time wasn't effective. But when I became unable to follow my self inflicted laws,  this mindset was significantly challenged. I began to spend time with the Lord while getting ready for the day, I meditated on the word on the bus, train, wherever. I've started to spend my lunch break taking walks with the Lord and just poring out my heart. I even began to post pictures and scriptures on the walls in my room so i remember who I need to pray for and what scriptures to pray over their lives.

5.  You quit too soon 

This isn't about the length of time you spend during your quiet time. It's about giving up. There have been times where I've heard people say that they haven't prayed or studied the Word in weeks because they haven't been able to be consistent. What does that even mean? All because you think you've "failed" in quiet time doesn't mean you should stop all together. The devil doesn't want you to spend time with God, learn about Him, learn about who you are in Him. So obviously he'll feed you lies and give other things to be doing instead of spending time with God. When you feel like you're not consistent or feel like you have nothing to tell God or you don't remember or understand what you read. Don't quit, take it to the Lord I'm prayer. Let him know how you feel and He will surely help, Jeremiah 33:3, James 1:5-6.


                                                   Someone once said to me when you don't feel like praying, pray.

Hi guys! I am a twenty something year old currently pursuing a PhD in Robotics (eek!), who has a slight obsession with all things purple!!!! But most importantly, I LOVE God and I have a sincere passion to see lost souls return to Christ. I am currently serving at my local church as a children's teacher. Having overcome the spirit of defeat, inadequacy and rejection, I am determined to tell as many people as possible about the saving grace of Jesus. Finally, always remember: Regardless of your past, you are loved, chosen and forgiven.
By ChosenByHim 04 Sep, 2017

Christ has all the power of the almighty God- he raised the dead, gave sight to the blind, restored deformed bodies, and calmed stormy seas (check out the books of Matthew, Mark, Luke and John). But with all this power, Jesus came to mankind as a servant. Many did not recognise or acknowledge him as the Messiah. Because of Jesus' example we should be willing to serve others regardless of whether we get recognised for it or not. Real ministry isn't glamorous, sure there are good moments but the majority of true ministry entails service and sacrifice.

By ChosenByHim 02 Aug, 2017
I am Brittany. I am an Anthropology major. I am married. I suffer from anxiety and depression. I am Southern Baptist. I am, also, Pentecostal Church of God. I am a female. Do these things define me?  No. They make up who I am, but they do not define me. You may be asking “Bri, what do you mean? Those are things you said are you.” Well internet people, you are not wrong. They make up parts of me. However, they are not me. I can give you a list of all the things that are parts of me or activities that I do. But what defines me is Christ. When we accept Jesus into our hearts, we receive a new identity. We are a new creation ( 2 Corinthians 5:7). I am no longer defined by my sin or shame. Neither are you. You are new. We have been crucified with Christ, He lives in us. His Holy Spirit makes us Holy. (Ephesians 4:24). We are salt and light. We are a city on a hill, our light cannot be hidden. (Matthew 5:14). 
By ChosenByHim 27 Jul, 2017

Can you believe we are over halfway through the year already? Reflecting back on how the year has been so far, I think about my first love; and how as the year has progressed there have been times I have seriously neglected Him. At the beginning of 2017, I saw everyone posting about their plans and goals for the year (not that this is a bad thing if committed to the hands of God), but 2016 had taught me that truly “many are the plans of a man, but it is the Lord’s will that will prevail” (Proverbs 19:21). So rather I decided to ask the Lord, “Father, what do you have for me this year? What should be my focus for the year, just give me a word” and faithfully He did - Intentionality . Of course I know what the word intentional means, but when I went to really study it, I genuinely laughed because I knew exactly why God gave me ‘intentionality’ - I was way too easily distracted, often trying to do too many things in an unrealistic timeframe, I hardly prioritised and working in the corporate world always had me tired! I think God was trying to highlight to me the importance of being intentional in my relationship with Him –He wanted me to learn to intentionally and deliberately withdraw to spend time with Him and prioritise my relationship with Him above everything else.

By ChosenByHim 22 Jun, 2017

Do you ever feel like Jesus doesn't understand? Like He lived 3,000 years ago and can't possibly understand the stress of a college student (or wherever you are in life)? Well, I have great news! He does! He gets it. He gets us. While it is true He lived around 3,000 years ago, He dealt with the same sin we do. You might say "Brittany, no He didn't. He didn't experience Victoria Secret commercials or gluttonous Big Mac radio commercials". Technically, you're right. He didn't experience commercials. However, sin is always the same. No matter how it's presented, whether it be commercials, false gods, or having Satan tell you "Hey, test God and turn this rock into bread". 

By ChosenByHim 30 May, 2017

We have read about how Jesus Christ lived his life on earth, showing signs and wonders through his healing, praying and his resurrection. One of the reasons his followers believed in him was because he didn’t just talk about the kingdom and power of God but showed them. He healed the sick, raised the dead, fed the multitudes, defended the weak, walked on water, spoke to the storm and so much more. Basically, Christ lived by showing results of whom, he represented – God. Not only did Christ perform miracles as we learnt, but he also visited the less priviledged, he sat and ate with non-believers and was compassionate to the helpless. 

And it came to pass, that, as Jesus sat at meat in his house, many publicans and sinners sat also together with Jesus and his disciples: for there were many, and they followed him. (Mark 2:15)

By ChosenByHim 21 Apr, 2017

Quiet time is an extremely important time in a Christians daily life. Where we spend with the Lord in prayer, reading the word, worshipping and most importantly listening to what He says. There comes a time in your Christian walk when spending time with God, becomes a daily priority. You genuinely desire to be with the Lord but there's a problem- It's inconsistent, it doesn't feel good, it's boring, you don't know how, your mind wanders, the list goes on. You're not alone, this is something a lot of Christians struggle with and I know I've struggled (and still struggle) with some of these things.

By ChosenByHim 21 Apr, 2017

f a young child walks up to us and asks for help on an assignment, a project or simply for some money to support a certain cause, we can choose to help or not. If we however decide to help the child, they will be excited and thankful. Now imagine, you meet that same child a week later and they walk up to you and say "thank you for your support the other day, I'm very grateful". We would definitely be impressed by the child's act of gratitude. We would even be willing to help the child in the future even before they ask. This is the same way God feels when we give thanks for our lives and all He has blessed us with. So much may be going on around such as disappointments, delays or we may even find ourselves in difficult situations. This does not erode the fact that some great things are also happening around us, which we never really pay attention to. When we woke up this morning for instance, we were able to move about and go about our daily lives without needing any  support.  God's grace and love is always evident in our lives even if we don't realise.

By ChosenByHim 21 Apr, 2017

My Pastor often gives analogies so we can grasp certain spiritual concepts.    A few Bible Study classes ago, he explained the term   metamorphosis .   He explained that the transition of an unattractive caterpillar into a beautiful butterfly is an example of this incredible transformation. This took me back to second grade when our class witnessed the process, watching them constantly eat, settle into their cocoons and amazingly bloom into full-fledged butterflies!   Pastor compared this evolution to our own personal transition when we decide to believe and follow Christ.   That night after getting home, I sat there thanking God.   Why? Because I realized over the past few years I’d been “morphing” into the butterfly God intended me to be!

I “technically” accepted Christ at ten years old but I feel like I just started this journey FORREAL…transforming into the person I need to be in order to live out His purpose.  I accepted Him at a young age because I saw how much my family believed in and on Him.  As a child I always attended church.  Church was in my DNA so of course when I went away for college, I found a local fellowship and college ministry so that I would continue to receive and learn the Word.  I attribute this era of my life to learning specifically about God’s faith, trust, and having an intimate relationship with Him.

By ChosenByHim 21 Apr, 2017

The world we live in today has been contaminated by an over exposure to sexual sin. Everything we watch, read and hear points to sex and purity has become unfashionable. We have become so blind that we fail to acknowledge that  sexual sins have spiritual consequences.  Sexual sin is so serious that it can bring weakness to anyone’s walk with God.  It is almost impossible to develop or maintain intimacy with God when we allow sin to take over our bodies.

“Who shall ascend into the hill of the Lord? Or who shall stand in his holy place? He that hath clean hands, and a pure heart” Psalm 24:3-4

A major sin that many Christians battle with is lust. Lust is the root cause of many sins in our world today such as fornication, adultery, premarital sex, pornography, and homosexual relations. A popular Christian author once defined lust like this: "To lust is to want what you don't have and weren't meant to have. Lust goes beyond attraction, and appreciation of beauty, or even a healthy desire for sex, it makes these desires more important than God. Lust wants to go outside God's guidelines to find satisfaction." 

By ChosenByHim 21 Apr, 2017

Within our hearts, there are always desires to do something great that will impact the lives of others around us. We have goals and aspirations that will satisfy our souls. Some of these goals range from establishing charities, educational institutions, ministries, medical facilities, law firms, technology hubs and so on. We crave these goals so much that we sometimes disregard where we presently are or what we are currently doing. We become less concerned for the roles that we currently have. We forget that we are placed at these positions for a purpose. So we may begin to feel tired, stressed and overworked. The situation that we once thanked God for could now become a burden.

"I had fainted, unless I had believed to see the goodness of the LORD in the land of the living. Wait on the LORD: be of good courage, and he shall strengthen thine heart: wait, I say, on the LORD." (Psalms 27:13-14).

As followers of Christ, we are taught to live a life of service to others. We have also learnt to be full of gratitude in every situation we find ourselves. Most importantly, we have learnt to seek God's guidance regarding our personal goals.

More Posts
Share by: